Bible Discussion Thread

Can you know a person by his word without seeing their actions in life? I have been speaking to this man who I have not dated. He claims to be sold out to Christ but wants a committment based upon conversations without real personal experience spending time with them what does the bible say about this

Hi christine If its important enough God will tell you if its necessary spiritually for your life, ask and ye shall

receive. Things pf the spirit are a need to know bases for your personal walk, so if you need to know he will tell

you.

Hi Christine. I hope you can get other viewpoints & guidance on this matter, especially from a sister who may be able to give you better help based on feminine senses.

The Bible doesn't afford much help specific to your case as the setting there is of eastern thought & culture; where girls married according to the dictates of their parents; the girls were taught to be fully subservient to their husbands; to bear children & keep the home; and as far as believers were concerned, that deep relationships (whether in marriage, business, etc.) should only be with fellow believers ( 2 Corinthians 6:14). Now, how the Church ascertained whether the eligible young man or woman were suitable, would probably be by having conversations between them/their parents, their Christian walk & witness & ability to provide for their needs. No doubt, with the very few believers in the early Church, I would think that one wouldn't have many choices amongst marriagable folk, so committing the matter to the Lord would have also been very important - but unfortunately, the Bible doesn't go into any detail about this, rather about holding the marriage together.

My advice is to keep this matter in prayer to the Lord & really listen out for His Voice to your heart & not be led by what you feel is the best. Sometimes, our desires can be overpowering making the 'voice' in your heart become the 'Voice of God'. In addition, if you are acquainted with your male friend's family or friends, you can 'sound them out' discreetly to learn where this man is really at, not only spiritually, but emotionally, mentally, & a heart for the unsaved & underprivileged. Unfortunately, so many Christian marriages dissolve for various reasons though not for want of trying to rescue them - if you truly sense that all the 'feelers' you put out to the Lord & others, give you assurance, then you may want to take the friendship to the next level. And remember, he is probably considering you too with a prayerful heart.