Bible Discussion Thread

Dear Giannis, I must have waxed too poetic and was misunderstood. I made some bad decisions about men as an unsaved woman and unfortunately, I still must be making some bad decisions even as a Christian, for instance, I have been abused by my husband a professing Christian who hides what he does to me, he will outright lie to cover it up. I have been reading books by Leslie Vernick about just such men and, does the Lord want me to stay and be abused. So even if they are in the pew on Sunday they might just be a frog and not a prince. I still have to accept responsibility for needing discernment & seeking the Lord and obeying instead of thinking I should hold on no matter what. Please pray because my husband needs it and so do I. Thank you Sincerely,

Dear Jonet

This is a very harsh situation for you. Since I don't know many details I can not give you any advice and this is right anyway because this is not something I am the appropriate person to do. You need to talk to somebody about your relationship with your husband. If you attend a church then I suggest you talk to the pastor or an elder and ask for advice. Maybe get some councelling from a professional or from an appropriate person from the social services in your place. But then it all depends on how severe is what you are living in. Are you just verbally abused or it goes further than that? It is up to you to decide how far you need to go. It depends on many factors and it is you that you only know them. But what I can advice you is not stop praying to God and hope for the better. About Leslie Vernick I am sorry I have never heard of her, so I don't know if her advices are good or not. The Lord definately does not want you to be abused. Ask Him to give you wisdom in how to handle things. But again my advice is you to talk to somebody, not just anybody but where you can get some real help. And may God help you out of this. And I pray that your husband becomes a real christian again. GBU

Dear Jonet Kemp, Jesus said in Matthew 19:9 "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery." This of course means "put away her husband," too. However, according to the late Billy Graham, God never said that we must stay in a life-threatening marriage. Even if your husband hasn't threatened your life, he could suddenly ignite into a dangerous fury. If you are scared of him, pick a time when he is at work or not expected back for several hours, pack what you can in a hurry and go to a family or friend or a women's shelter, and do not meet him anywhere in private to talk things over. (NOTE: leaving, but not divorcing.)

God protect and bless you!