Bible Discussion Thread

My wife and I are marital problems and we are in desperate need of prayer

praying

Having commented in the last post; I am going to pray now for some of these breakthroughs to take place in regard to continuing fellowship; prayer and scripture reading together. I will also pray that you will find the right way to act and that your wife can find happiness and also learn about unconditional love of Christ. I don't know if she is a believer or not.

I also will ask God that if you have a situation of isolation that you and your wife can find a good network of believers to hang out with. She will either find a good or bad group of people to interact with if it is anything like what I went through.

I also will ask the Lord to guard both of your hearts against temptation from those who would tempt us toward having an affair.

It is highly likely that these tests will come if they haven't already.

I know there are other things such as finances; children; etc. that can be stressors. If there is anything else specific brother give me a response and I will also pray on that as well.

Agape; Rich P (and thanks for listening to my response; I am hoping to see other marriages saved before they get to where mine ended up).

Dear Joshua: I have been there with difficulties in the past; sadly in my case ending in divorce. I say that as a caveat in case any advice I give you seems to be inappropriate. I availed myself after my separation with a Biblical counseling Institute associated with the OPC church when I was in Pittsburgh where I was given good counsel specifically on my own anger issues through a study in the Book of James and much prayer. Seeking such counsel in the church can be hard as few want to admit they are having a problem; and sadly there is too little respect much of the time for the sanctity of the marriage covenant; thus encouraging remarriages of those divorced when spouses are still alive. That is something I don't believe in. BTW I did have years of marriage counseling the secular way without too much success; although I still have some from someone at least nominally Christian.

In my case; I was married in an elopement type scenario but was also baptized as I had never received that before then and also was under solid leadership in a Reformed church. Unfortunately I stopped attending church for quite a while as my wife was far less committed to Christ and I didn't do well as a leader in the home. I have no doubt the Lord brought us together even though as of now she married another man who she was messing with at the time of my separation and eventual divorce. I state these things to say that we shouldn't always try to figure out what we did wrong to get into a situation that develops years later.

I can only surmise that you may have a similiar difficulty as I did getting your spouse to pray with you. Getting a regular time yourself should be a priority and she should understand that. Reading the Word I would also guess may be a struggle.

In general women that are bossy don't want to listen to you no matter how right you may be. The Spirit has to work on your wife; and in some capacity you have to wait upon the Lord to do that.